Monday, August 29, 2011

WHY DO YOU DO





Only recently a fairly big deal of a person asked me why I started blogging.  And I really didn’t have a good answer. Such is my reputation for being woefully unprepared, I hoped she'd think my answer of ‘I was sick of playing spider solitaire’ was cute instead of lazy but her face gave her away.  Wrong answer.  So I decided to think about it in case there was a next time.


So Now What? was born from reading a Blog from a lady I knew in real life.  Her posts illustrated a seemingly perfect life.  Her as a regular Holly Homemaker with perfect offspring.  According to her regular updates, she was spending her days reading poetry to her children upon rising, making gluten free goulash for lunch then spinning organic cotton on her multi-spool spinning frame while her perfect offspring napped for at least two hours.  She of course set aside this free time to write to her many African Sponsor children about her quest for world peace.


Meanwhile, in reality, she was setting her children up in front of ABC2 with a big bowl of Cocoa Pops and flopping back into bed to watch a Jersey Shore marathon.   It was hypocrisy at its finest . And it bugged me.  So I started my own blog, perhaps almost in retaliation. 


It also felt like I had a lot of stories to tell at the time.  A lot of shit was going down in my life. Not always good stuff, but with 3 children, a money pit, life as a working mother, good friends, bad friends, sickness and a husband who although sweet was often somewhat unpredictable, the words practically wrote themselves.


And when you look at it, there are over 250 posts on here now, averaging 800 words a post. That’s wait, I have to pull out the mad technology that is my computer calculator, 200,000 words.  That’s two books! Although I’m not sure there is a market for a book about Cheese Toast, Bedazzlers and geriatric blow up dolls.  But I’m happy to be proven wrong.


Why did you start writing blogs or reading them for that matter?



Blog post in the making. Drinking with my sisters-in-law

31 comments:

Dovic said...

Because of you. And Squiggly xx

Twitchy said...

In a word: frustration. I have too much swirling around in my head. I thought it might help me sleep. Sometimes, when shit goes down and it seems no one is listening, it really *does* help to know that one day soon it will all sound funn taking the piss in retrospect. Has it helped the sleep? Not really. Now if I'm not reading others' blogs, instead of problem-solving my life, I lie inE bed mentally composing posts. xx

4 kids, 20 suitcases and a beagle said...

I think I started mine the day after we arrived in Doha. I was going to send out a group email to our friends and then figured it was easier to just write a post. I looked around the hotel room and counted the suitcases surrounding the kids.....4 kids, 20 suitcases and a beagle was born.

Without sounding toooooo dramatic, it's been a life changing experience. I have had some amazing opportunities as a result of the blog. I also now write for mags and other blogs which has resulted in a change in career.

There's quite a few blogs that I now visit regularly, I love reading about other people's dysfunctional families, makes me feel so much better about giving my children "incentives" (bribes) to get through the day.

Kxx



I love the blogosphere and the friendships I've made in it.

Linda said...

I'm a relative newbie in 'blog years' but I started because I was tired of talking to myself. It keeps me honest.
I'm with '4 kids... ', sometimes when I put my stuff out there and then read someone else's experience I feel a 'whew, I'm not the only crazy out here'
I must have missed the post about the geriatric blow up dolls. Looks like I have some catching up to do.
love your blog just as it is :-)

@BertMaverick said...

Yeah as Twitchy said - Frustration. I am just creative without any other real creative outlets. Its both a diary and a way for my friends and family to see what I'm up to wherever they are, in an easy format to manage (add photos, geo info, whatever really) especially at a time like now where I'm based in another country doing something cool.

Shelly - Tropical Mum said...

Started reading blogs out of boredom as was having a break from work and study life due to treatment for the Big C. Then started my own about a year later and have never looked back. Approaching my 2-year blog anniversary next month. Where did all those words come from?

Jodi @ The Scribble Den said...

Many reasons really. I first started a business blog with my VA business which I really enjoyed. Then I began reading a lot of blogs and thought Hey I can do this too! So I did. It was a creative outlet to practice my writing, get the mad thoughts out of my head (and by mad I mean, crazy, weird, troubled, happy, frustrated, content and all of the above), and also to connect with someone else who at least felt the same. (I was happy with just one back then!)
I continue to blog, because I love to write, it is definitely therapeutic and I enjoy it!

ClaireyHewitt said...

I just wanted to see how to set one up in case I needed to know for my marketing jobs. I begged my family and even typed their names into the feed burner gadget just so I would have 10 followers. I never expected anyone to find me. Which reminds me, I must look at what crap I wrote about at the start.

So Now What? said...

Actually Claire, that is a great post, I might do one with the very first post others did. xx

Amy said...

I love blogs that blow the perfect Mummy thing out of the water. I've got one of them on my blogroll and I just want to vomit everytime she writes about what a horrible mother she is because she fed her kids yoghurt (high in sugar, you see).

Thanks for all you do :)

Denwise aka Denyse Whelan said...

Oh.That question.Blogopolis made me wonder, "What the hell is my blog about, what's its story?" I did not have the ability to put a few words together about that...just a long and drawn out story. So, I have made changes...but moving along to your question...

I started my blog because:
1. Of blogs I read, and how much I enjoyed them, and yours was probably my FIRST after mamamia when it was a blog....so, in typical fashion, after a while
2. I began Blog 1. I "thought" it would help me, help B (hub with dementia that is now not - I explained that to you in Melbs in a taxi!) with MEMORY and MEMORY AIDS.
3. Blog One - the ancestor of the current blog - denysewhelan.com.au actually still has the name "memoryaids" as my user name with my hosting company.
4. Your blog, Bern, is consistent, and at times 'hard-hitting', with generous serves of family life a la Morley, along with tongue in cheek and very witty & savvy comments. It is a BLOGGER's BLOG.
5. My blog is at version #264 with name changes, design changes and has cost me about the airfare (economy) to US...wish I'd known what I'd wanted at the start...
6. GOOD on YOU Bern!!
Denyse. A long-time fan and blogging friend XX

Alex aka WHOA MUMMA! said...

Started blogging in 2009 when I was pregnant with number 4 and bored out of my brain. Deuce was doing it and it was an easy way to connect with other mums from home.

The blog is just a way to gossip, share goofy family stories and other things that amuse me. Like a few other girls, I LOVE looking at the perfect, sweetness and light mummy blogs on my blog roll and rolling my eyes at their posts and the things they fret about.

Mrs Woog said...

I started blogging 2 years ago because my friend Louise started Table Tonic and thought I should start one as well. Becuase I always listen to other people...

And I have only met a handful of bloggers who are different to their online persona. Thank god!

Diminishing Lucy said...

I started to keep myself accountable for my lardy arse. It has, like my arse, evolved into something quite large...

xx

Miss Pink said...

I can't remember why I started blogging. Maybe because I have a lot to say and I know somewhere in there was wanting to keep a record of Bluey.

I started The Mummy Autobiography because after blogging for so many years I found I needed a public platform. A place I wanted to share publicly and away from the alias I had always had previously.
I did not think it would last this long or evolve this much, but I am happy it did. There have even been things I've talked about on my public blog that I never dared to on my private blog, so it's really quite strange. I guess it can be therapeutic?

Thea said...

One of the first blog I read was yours!
I loved posts that made me giggle...in your case...every single one.
And I wished I could write like that.
I thought my brain was too fried to string words together anymore. I was sure a tweet was as much as I could do.
But it keep bugging me until I felt I had to give it a go...so I did...
And that's why mine is called, "Do I Really Wanna Blog?"

Cate said...

I started because someone told me I should. Sometimes I want to shoot that person.
I also read some boring blogs and thought "I can write shit that nobody will read better than that."
I found mostly 'mummy blogs'; cracked nipples, nappy rash and toddler tantrums and wanted to put something different out there. What happens when the toddlers grow up, still wont eat their veggies, start shaving, ask to borrow the car, and stay out later than you do? That's where I'm at.
And I couldn't think of a title, hence I'll Think Of A Title Later.
I'll shut up now.

Veronica @ Mixed Gems said...

I started reading blogs before I was went back to work after bub #1. I was at home, had time and really wasn't looking forward to what my work environment held on my return. So reading was an escape but moreso, an inspiration. I read craft, design and self-help blogs before I tripped into mummy bloggers. I was hooked. If I recall, the Goodgoog and Fat Mum Slim were the first I religiously read.

I know why I started writing. In fact, it was a very considered decision to blog.
It took me about a year of lurking on the sidelines, reading blogs and twitter before I launched. I signed up months ago but only really started writing through June 2011.

The two keys things that drew me were the sense of community I witnessed and the chance for it to provide a creative outlet. So far, it's met my expectations.

Ms Kate said...

I started because I got pregnant, and I didn't want to forget a thing. Now I have 5 kids, and my life is totally different! Amazing to look back.

Naomi said...

I'd love to have a clever answer. But I don't. Basically my facebook status updates were too long to be put into one update. And I was on holidays... and I was bored... and perhaps had been drinking... and with a hubby who does web stuff I just said can you make me a blog? And he did.

The end.

Except now I really love it... but there is no clever or profound reason for starting, I'm just glad I did.

Melody said...

I started blogging in 2004 - whoah - that's a whole lotta blogging I've done. My sister (living in London) had a blog and now has a huge blog following because she reviews books. Anyway she suggested I start one as I was pregnant with #1 and living in Melbourne. It was one way for her to 'keep check' on me, her baby sister about to have a baby. I did start my current blog in 2006 after moving to Cairns from Melbourne and now, living in Abu Dhabi UAE, it is a good way for the folks back home to see what my family and I are up to.

There's been many a time when I have wanted to stop but I love rereading times gone by and seeing how #1 has grown and #2 come into the world.

Donna said...

I began blogging with a purpose of posterity - I'd failed miserably at recording my son's milestones in a baby book! Plus I craved something creative to do while knee deep in nappies and it actually felt like a little dose of therapy to rid my brain of all the cluttering sentences that swirled about!

Terry said...

I came back from teh 2006 World Cup with my family to tell may stories to my friends. One of whom has a Web Marketing business.
He told me that I told a good story and that I should start a Blog. I had never even read any other blog at that stage.
So with his help, I did it. But I just never got the momentum going, I didn't like being criticised and hence I have not done with it what I wanted to. But it is still there for me to play around with and I vent there now and again.

Miss T said...

In 2009 my birthday was less than a month after my wedding, so I told my husband not to get me a present. We'd already had so many.

He gave me a website. My name as a website on my first birthday with my new name. Set it up for me as a blog.

I blog not because I'm a writer, I never was, I just have things to say.

Rebecca said...

I started blogging because there's only so much face-to-face listening of my crap that my friends are willing to put up with :) x

Ellie said...

What's wrong with watching a Jersey Shore marathon?
Rhetorical question don't answer that, in case it makes me feel bad about myself.

Cheryl said...

I have absolutely no idea.

I've started and scrapped 4 blogs previous (hence title Number Five) but this one is going ok though it has no cohesion at all.

I really don't know why I wanted to start. I like writing...

...I continue blogging because I'm enjoying meeting new folk in the blogosphere - it's like a whole new world out there!

Sheesh. What a crap answer.

ryan2point0 said...

Cognitive surplus.

MaidInAustralia said...

I started blogging when we were living overseas and I wanted to keep family and friends up to what we were doing, and share happy snaps of the kids etc. When we got back and my marriage fell apart, my shrink and many good friends told me to write. I wasn't ready to go back to work - as a journalist and travel writer - yet, but I needed to keep writing and it became my therapy. And then it became something more, because I started discovering blogs like yours Bern, and twitter. And then meeting up with bloggers at things like AusBlogCon and it's developed into this amazing hobby that has connected me to so many fab people and given me some wonderful opportunities. So now blogging is like my crack now, and I'm addicted!

Jem said...

Hi Bern I did not know why you started to blog, I am just glad that you did.I found your blog through Mamamia. Love your work :)

BaliRing said...

There are a lot of reason to star a blog..to me blogging is a way to make profit..